“The new date is ‘hanging out,’ ” said Denise Hewett, 24, an associate television producer in Manhattan.
The following is an excerpt from the trending NYTimes article, "The End of Courtship?" by Alex Williams, written in January 2013. Twenty-somethings everywhere are frustrated with the messed up dating world that, thank you cell phones, our generation have supposedly ruined. Many are finding the first date to be obsolete because generally facebook can cover all of that, but in reality, all we know is that they have cool friends and had a profile picture of Romney. Check this article out, because it brings up so many interesting points:
Blame the much-documented rise of the “hookup culture” among young people, characterized by spontaneous, commitment-free (and often, alcohol-fueled) romantic flings. Many students today have never been on a traditional date, said Donna Freitas, who has taught religion and gender studies at Boston University and Hofstra and is the author of the forthcoming book, “The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy.”
Hookups may be fine for college students*, but what about after, when they start to build an adult life? The problem is that “young people today don’t know how to get out of hookup culture,” Ms. Freitas said. In interviews with students, many graduating seniors did not know the first thing about the basic mechanics of a traditional date. “They’re wondering, ‘If you like someone, how would you walk up to them? What would you say? What words would you use?’ ” Ms. Freitas said.
That may explain why “dates” among 20-somethings resemble college hookups, only without the dorms. Lindsay, a 25-year-old online marketing manager in Manhattan, recalled a recent non-date that had all the elegance of a keg stand (her last name is not used here to avoid professional embarrassment).
*Duh, I disagree with this point. Hook-ups are never ok.
The full article can be found here.